Sadly, all of the above have been told to people I know. Some to me directly. Sure, I can hear them saying now..."but it was said in love. Those things are wrong....biblically wrong"...and they continue to make noise trying to justify their actions. If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 1 Corinthians 13:1
There is no justification in one sinner casting another sinner aside.
What a beautiful world could exist if we choose to love one another. To open our hearts, and arms,and doors to others whenever they came seeking. To let go of our denominational doctrines that are narrowly exclusive and instead live out---that these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13.
I believe that even though the church may have closed their hearts and doors to their suffering brothers or sisters, God never does. My relationship with God is separate from my relationship to a church. And I am not saying all churches are bad, or you shouldn't go to church, but sadly I have seen too many examples of judgement passed out from others within the church.
Too seldom do we see people in their true humanness. We see them as Jews or Gentiles, Catholics or Protestants, Chinese or American, blacks or whites (divorced, gay, poor, different from us). We fail to see them as fellow human beings made from the same basic stuff as we, molded in the same divine image.- Martin Luther King, Jr.
In our human weakness we fail to show grace to others. We fail to reach out to those who are different. We quickly give advice through our narrowed lens of understanding. We condemn others based on our own arrogant presumptions. We fail to act as Jesus would.
I confess I have done all of the above, repeatedly. But thankfully, I have questioned, and learned, and started to really know our Jesus through my own relationship with him.
Not because I was raised a Baptist, or a preacher's kid, or because my parents did...but because I was cast aside by my many fellow Christian friends in the past several years. Many still won't talk to me. All because I was divorced. They choose to believe rumors they heard or drew their own conclusions. I no longer fit their unblemished mold of a Christian woman.
Since then I have seen the face of God through others who engulfed me in love. From my homeless friends who leave notes on my car to friends I now consider family, to an island home where there are no strangers, I believe more and more that all we may really need is love.